It is okay to change - 5 small steps to accept change
I am writing this to you after having spent a few days in Oslo. I have always liked big city life, with people and places buzzing with life. But as much as I hate to admit this, I have changed on this as well.
Even though the sun was shining and there was joy and laughter all over the place, I could not help but dream about being in Italy on a quiet writing retreat instead, preferably in Tuscany somewhere. Not to consume wine since I do not drink anymore, but to be fully surrounded by great food and even greater people in the beautiful scenery, without the sounds of constant sirens or having to worry about being bumped into by the fearless people driving like they robbed a bank and are now escaping on the electric scooters.
It is okay to change
This brings me to the topic I wanted to write about today, and that is that it is okay to change. This might be something you are completely comfortable with already, and if so, I am saluting you.
But should you be a bit like me, or some of the people I meet with every week, you find it a bit hard to embrace the change that emerges in or around you.
Life moves in cycles, and I have resisted change so much.
Mentally, I understand that we change as human beings. But I have resisted in every way possible to embody change.
I want to live in spring forever!
I want bright days, trees bursting with leaves, flowers blooming, and birds chirping. I want the spring energy of how seedlings grow into something beautiful or edible. And I want this all year round, not just for three months at a time.
Accepting change as part of deconditioning
In Human Design, we understand that we are conditioned to be and do in a certain way. As part of our deconditioning process, we peel off layer after layer to get to our core. And a huge layer for me has been this resistance to change.
Because changing means accepting that life is more than spring. It is also fall. What grows will, in one way or another, shift shape, and sometimes even die.
That is okay.
This coming week, I will work on accepting what has changed in me. My body knows what it wants, and I will let go of what I mentally think I want. The beauty of having a defined crown chakra is that you can be too fixated mentally and therefore less flexible, and I am definitely on the less flexible end of the range of accepting change.
5 small steps to accept change
Should you want to accept change in or around you as well, feel into how these steps resonate with you as a way to work with your resistance:
Accept any feelings or emotions you have about the change. Without judging yourself, tap into what your resistance to change is really about.
Allow yourself to change. Nature changes all the time, and we human beings are also nature.
Look for the silver lining. What new possibilities are waiting for you on the other side of change?
Be open and share how you feel about change. You will be surprised how many of us would love to listen and share our thoughts on change.
Listen to your inner authority when you feel in on what resonates with you. Your Inner Authority is your decision-making compass, guiding you to choices that align with your true self.
It might be that your choices require a change in behaviour, environment, or even people, but stay curious and tap into what it can look like on the other side of change.
