We are in this together
With loving support from so many beautiful souls, I have been able to stand (most time) firmly on my feet once again. And with that, I have been able to pay forward the support I have gotten, to give away gift sessions and other forms of support to others.
Asking for help
In a society where we learn that we need to be able to do everything on our own, especially we women, it has felt like being a failure on two legs whenever I have asked for help. I would rather suffer in silence, cry at home, and eventually burn out, than admit that something has been difficult for me and ask for help.
I am not proud to admit that I have even urged other women “to think and act like a man” in workplace situations, in desperation over seeing fellow women not being taken seriously by male leaders and investors.
Now I am saying “Let’s burn this shit down” instead, and by that I am referring to the patriarchy.
Of course, I do not want to ship all men to outer space (but wouldn’t it be convenient if most of them took a hike now and then?). The patriarchy is not serving all men, either, so it would benefit us all to step into a new paradigm.
When I say “We are in this together”, it includes everyone. Yin vs Yang. Lightness vs darkness. Summer vs Winter.
I have stopped believing in managing everything on my own. And the ripple effect we create when we ask for help so we can improve one way or another, is beautiful.
The pain of friendships that end
What I learned the hard way was that our communities change over time. I clung on to friendships for too long, even though the energy was all gone. I promised myself that if my heart ever healed, I would never befriend anyone again. I was speaking from a wounded place, and spiritually, I now know that I signed up to learn this.
From a Human Design perspective, my south and north moon nodes on the design side also show clearly in my chart that this was necessary for me to learn.
But as a human being, I cannot spiritually bypass this pain by simplifying it. It hurt, and I have moved on, grateful for the experience and even more grateful to have learned that I am still able to make friends. I was not broken, like I thought.
New friendships emerged, and I have once again found my way into different kinds of communities where there is laughter and a collective purpose.
The secret ingredient of belonging
I have recently read the book “Ikigai - the Japanese secret to a long and happy life” by Francesc Miralles and Héctor García, and it had some chapters about the importance of having a group of friends in a community, while having a reason to get up every morning. This is also backed up by science.
The idealistic side of me wants for, and even longs for, that every single human being finds their purpose in life and a community in which they thrive.
I long for our children to go to school, not just to learn to read and calculate the area of a circle. I long for them to learn empathy, to be active, to do art to express themselves, to learn how to build and grow an edible garden, and how to play an instrument.
All together while they learn the importance of belonging, and letting them know that we are in this together.
Collective pain and healing
As ballistic the world is these days, it is some sort of silly to say “We are in this together”. People are suffering all over the world while our leaders discuss and act like children, throwing tantrums and having meltdowns instead of stepping up to fulfill the tasks we have chosen them to do.
But the collective pain is something that we are in together, and in my opinion, everyone who has the freedom to be and do their purpose must roll up their sleeves and live out that purpose.
In the same way we experience collective hurt, we can also do collective healing.
Now is the time to show your gifts, take your part in the community, find like-minded people to have fun with, be and do what you came here for in this life, and have fun with it!
Life is an experiment, and if we forget to laugh while we are at it, it will be a heavier road to walk down.
I appreciate every one of you, and I truly love that we are in this together.
Take care of yourself, and give from a place of surplus. This is the season of abundance, and there is enough for everyone if we are generous and supportive.
